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Understanding Social Anxiety and Shyness

It’s normal to feel nervous, shy or a bit awkward in social situations sometimes. Most people feel this way occasionally and can still join in, even if it feels uncomfortable.

Shyness or social awkwardness might mean you feel unsure what to say, worry a bit about what others think, or need time to warm up — but you can still take part in conversations, school, work or social activities.

Social anxiety (also called social phobia) is different. The fear of being judged, embarrassed or doing something wrong can be so strong that it feels overwhelming. It’s not just discomfort. It can stop someone from speaking up, meeting new people or taking part in everyday situations.

What happens with social anxiety?

The feelings of self-consciousness and fear become intense and persistent. Situations like talking in a group, answering a question, meeting new people or speaking in public can feel extremely stressful, not just uncomfortable.

People with social anxiety often:

• worry a lot before, during and after social situations

• avoid situations altogether, or get through them with significant distress

• find that their fear gets in the way of school, work, friendships or opportunities

While someone who is shy might feel nervous but still participate, someone with social anxiety may feel unable to take part at all because the fear is too strong.